From: Charles McGarvey Date: Wed, 13 Jul 2016 02:31:32 +0000 (-0600) Subject: initial commit X-Git-Url: https://git.dogcows.com/gitweb?p=chaz%2Ftalk-how-to-deal-with-introverts;a=commitdiff_plain;h=7a377f47987bee830c3823f86d60b3a9fec5c925 initial commit --- 7a377f47987bee830c3823f86d60b3a9fec5c925 diff --git a/.gitignore b/.gitignore new file mode 100644 index 0000000..dd3066f --- /dev/null +++ b/.gitignore @@ -0,0 +1,2 @@ +*.tif +/.cs_workspaces diff --git a/Makefile b/Makefile new file mode 100644 index 0000000..abb6d9c --- /dev/null +++ b/Makefile @@ -0,0 +1,38 @@ + +SLIDES = how-to-deal-with-introverts +BROWSER = chrome +DOT = dot + +dotfiles = $(shell find . -iname '*.dot') +svgfiles = $(patsubst %.dot,%.svg,$(dotfiles)) + +all: $(svgfiles) + +clean: + rm -f slides-offline.html remark.min.js $(SLIDES).pdf $(svgfiles) + +offline: slides-offline.html remark.min.js $(svgfiles) + +pdf: $(SLIDES).pdf + +run: $(svgfiles) + $(BROWSER) slides.html + +run-offline: offline + $(BROWSER) slides-offline.html + +%.svg: %.dot + $(DOT) -Tsvg -o$@ $< + +$(SLIDES).pdf: slides.html $(wildcard css/*) $(wildcard img/*) $(svgfiles) + docker run --rm -v `pwd`:/pwd astefanutti/decktape /pwd/slides.html /pwd/$(SLIDES).pdf + +slides-offline.html: slides.html + sed -e '1 a ' \ + -e 's!https://.*remark-latest\.min\.js!remark.min.js!' <$< >$@ + +remark.min.js: + curl -Lo $@ https://gnab.github.io/remark/downloads/remark-latest.min.js + +.PHONY: all clean offline pdf run run-offline + diff --git a/README.md b/README.md new file mode 100644 index 0000000..28a0460 --- /dev/null +++ b/README.md @@ -0,0 +1,18 @@ + +# Slides for "How to Deal with Introverts" + +This directory contains the slides for my talk entitled "How to Deal with Introverts". + +The slides were written in [Markdown](https://daringfireball.net/projects/markdown/) format and can be rendered with +[remark](http://remarkjs.com/). + +## Options + +To view the slides: + + make run + +To build a PDF version of the slides: + + make pdf + diff --git a/abstract.txt b/abstract.txt new file mode 100644 index 0000000..e0a84c1 --- /dev/null +++ b/abstract.txt @@ -0,0 +1,9 @@ +Business requires people working together, and that often brings people of +different personality types and temperaments together in the hope that +something worthwhile will come of the interactions that will take place. +Challenges can arise when any two people try to communicate, but it can be +especially tricky when at least one of those is an introvert. + +This talk will provide insights into how to deal with introverts, whether they +be your peers, the people you manage, or your boss. 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This is what + * you might expect the browser's "Back" button to do if it worked. + */ +(function() { + var history = []; + var skip = false; + slideshow.on('hideSlide', function(slide) { + if (skip) { + skip = false; + return; + } + history.push(slide.getSlideIndex() + 1); + }); + document.addEventListener('keydown', function(e) { + if (e.which === 85 /* [u]ndo */) { + var lastNum = history.pop(); + if (lastNum) { + skip = true; + slideshow.gotoSlide(lastNum); + } + } + }); +})(); + diff --git a/notes.txt b/notes.txt new file mode 100644 index 0000000..734da61 --- /dev/null +++ b/notes.txt @@ -0,0 +1,148 @@ + +Introversion + +How to deal with introverts +And how to deal with yourself if you are an introvert +And how to deal with extroverts + +## Outline + +What is introversion? Extroversion? +Stories +A word about hiring and onboarding +Statistics about introversion + +## Abstract + +Business requires people working together, and that often brings people of +different personality types and temperaments together in the hope that +something worthwhile will come of the interactions that will take place. +Challenges can arise when *any* two people try to communicate, but it can be +especially tricky when at least one of those is an introvert. + +This talk will provide insights into how to deal with introverts, whether they +be your peers, the people you manage, or your boss. You may also learn how to +deal with yourself if you are an introvert. + +## Notes + +Communication is hard (at best) when you don't take your receiver into +account. Example: Picard tries to communicate with the "darmok" alien. Even +though the universal translator was making it so that all the words were +individually understood, communication still wasn't happening. There is more +to language than mere words. Likewise, there is much more to effective +communication than language. A mutual understanding at some level is necessary +to make communication work, and better understanding is required for better +communication. Consider how network protocols are used to specify exactly how +two machines or programs can communicate. + +Speaking of Picard, what a great example of an effective introvert. See clip +of Picard trying to relax on shore leave but women are talking with him +because Riker gave him a trinket that is culturally significant. + +Separate the condition with the apparent or supposed results. +- It's not aspergers or autism. +- Rage quitting and abusive nerds online. +- Social awkwardness. +- Depression, [social] anxiety, stress, shyness, energy level, self esteem. +- Aloofness, selfishness, stuck up, self-absorbed. + +Stress is caused by inconsistency between a person's belief and their actions. +It is also the gap between what a person wants to do or feels like he or she +needs to do and what that person is actually doing or able to do. + +Human personality spans many spectrums. It isn't black and white. You're not +either an introvert or an extrovert; you exist somewhere in between. + +It's good to try to be more well-rounded. Try to put yourself out there, but +understand your effective limitations. Building meaningful relationships is +cool. + +Introverts don't need to be coddled. Certain individuals (introvert or +extrovert) may feel they need that, but introverts don't inherently need that. +In fact that may be very anti-productive. Because of the energy requirements +of introverts, they do need special consideration, that's true. But not +coddling. + +One of the most cringeworthy concepts for an introvert is breaking out of +one's "comfort zone." This phrase is bandied out constantly, but little time +is spent considering whether or not doing so has real benefits that the person +should care about. It may be beneficial, but we all seem to have this +assumption that we all should be breaking out of our comfort zones, but should +we really all be striving to do that? Yes and no. + +Try not to put introverts "on the spot". You'll likely get a blank expression +in return. Seed the discussion beforehand. Send out a list or summary of +things to think about before a planned meeting and make sure they know what +will be expected of them. + +Don't rush introverts. When you ask them a question that they don't +immediately know the answer to, you may get a blank expression that may make +you think that there is no thinking going on there, but they are thinking. +Just be a little patient and you'll get a response eventually. If you're an +introvert put on the spot, try to make some sort of indication that you are +thinking and will respond. "Give me a second to think about that..." + +Introverts are very capable of leadership and making decisions, but some will +find it more difficult to commit to a decision in cases where facts are not +available. They are data driven (is this true?) that may have more to do with +right brain lift brain differences. Introverts can be very creative. Although +an introvert may effectively fill my roll, some things may simply be done +better by an extrovert. + +In a meeting or other social setting, it's not unlikely to find the introverts +there may seem to not be participating. What may be happening is that they may +be having deeper thoughts than the extroverts. This does take time, though, so +they're probably lagging behind in the conversation, and by the time they have +something really interesting to say, they may find the conversation topic has +moved on, so they may not ever share their thought. Encourage people like that +to perhaps take notes and then to submit additional ideas via email or +something after the meeting. + +Introverts don't like to interrupt people, and sometimes extroverts engaging +with each other fail to leave gaps in the conversation in which introverts +feel like they can interject. Again, not all introverts have this issue, and +some that do have it have trained themselves to interact more like extroverts +in social settings. + +Introverts don't feel the need to say something unless it's important AND +isn't already being said, so if extroverts happen to be covering all the +important points in the conversation well enough, introverts may be content to +sit back and let the extrovert say everything. While some introverts may even +be fine with extroverts getting all the credit, you should be aware that many +those ideas may have come from the introvert. + +Some introverts may be prone to not remembering "trivial" details... such as +people's names. If you struggle with this, work on it. Sometimes you see +somebody but you just don't care enough to actually see them. Start to care. + +Introverts need extroverts and visa versa. We compliment each other. A world +without extroverts would be quite dull. + +Most of what I know about how to deal with introverts I learned from how my +boss and coworkers deal with me. + +## About Me + +I am not in HR. I'm actually a software developer, but I learned of and then +became interested in understanding introversion when I was at a point in my +life where I was trying to understand myself. When I was growing up, I was +often frustrated that I wasn't more like my extrovert peers. I enjoyed and had +fun with my friends -- fortunately my friends enjoyed many introverted +activities -- but I noticed that I had many personality traits that were +considered undesirable at the time. Unfortunately, I often made the mistake of +caring what my peers thought of me, and that had some effect on my self +esteem. Actually, I made the far-more foolish mistake of believing in and +caring what I *thought* my peers thought of me. + +My experience made me uncomfortable being me, which is awful because I wasn't +about to be anyone else. After I realized how silly I was being by putting so +much weight behind what others may have thought about me, my discomfort left +and I was able to be happy again. I think this experience, to varying degrees, +is shared by many people of a variety of personality types, but (introvert +suicide rates). If you can relate to the experience I shared and are still +clinging to the false idea that your value should be so closely tied to what +others think of you (or what you imagine others think about you), please let +go of that notion! This is the most important thing you could take away from +this presentation. + diff --git a/slides.html b/slides.html new file mode 100644 index 0000000..f912e3e --- /dev/null +++ b/slides.html @@ -0,0 +1,93 @@ + +How to Deal with Introverts +